Not Feminist Enough?

After a recent exchange with a friend, it was called to my attention that some felt like AGT wasn’t feminist enough. I asked her what she meant and she told me that there was a common complaint that there weren’t enough articles on the topic itself. Okay. Fair enough. So I took a good look around the site and as I skimmed through the posts that I and many of my contributors worked so hard to create, I too began to think that we weren’t feminist enough.

I had to fix this problem—there was certainly a way around this new-found lacking…or loose end, or contradiction, or whatever the hell you want to call it. You see, it’s not like I can instantly pile drive a few dozen new posts about estrogen and childbirth in a month. But could I play around with our mission statement? Maybe. Could I look away and pretend as if feminism was never a goal for my blog? Possibly. There were escapes within reach—I just had to pick the nearest window and jump. And as I perched on my metaphorical windowsill, one leg pressed firmly to my carpet, the other hanging over the hum of rush hour, I had to take the time to question myself.

Were we feminist enough?

Was I feminist enough?

I realized that I never thought to ask myself this question. I never thought to ask because I thought that I was, am, and always will be feminist enough.

Like dubstep, raves, indie music, and hipsters, feminism has become a fashion trend. Teenage girls who want to be heard waltz into the world with fantasies of crushing boys and faux activism against misogynists. They pull up a picture of Gloria Steinem-Beyonce fan art on Google and say to themselves with a hearty sense of accomplishment that they are empowered—that they are feminists. But they don’t realize that they are aligning themselves with a cause that they do not fully understand. And maybe I don’t understand. After all, I was, and may still be, one of those bright-eyed young people. You see, I’m starting to think that feminism is being marginalized a little too much—by feminists! In the digital age, you’re only a feminist if you constantly complain about public dress codes and how they limit women. You’re only a feminist if you support the ban on slut-shaming. You’re only a feminist if you blatantly announce to the world that you’re a feminist by word and everything you do.

Maybe you think I’m sounding pretty anti-feminist. Well… You know… Get over it.

I happen to think that feminism amounts to a bit more. I was never the type to argue that no one should be judged by the way they dress or present themselves in public because we all know it’s gonna happen and if you don’t, you’re crazy. I sure as hell don’t want people coming up and telling me how “slutty” a pair of shorts might look on my body (as that’s just flat-out rude), but I’m rational enough to know that I can’t control what people think of me. For every person who thinks I look too provocative, there will always be a person who thinks I look nice. I don’t like calling people bad names, and exploring your sexuality is a good thing but the phrase gets abused and I’m surely going to have a hard time thinking the best of someone (male or female) who has a ton of sexual partners and potentially endangers the health and relationships of others. I have no problem telling people that I think I’m a feminist, but I also have the power to not let the preconceived expectations and “duties” that exist within and outside of the feminist community consume my personality.

When Americans think of feminist blogs they think of avant-garde sites where upper middle-class, white female bloggers gather together to discuss real (and sometimes fabricated) women’s issues. If they are a “good” feminist blog they do it in every single post. Well, I’m sorry to say that I can’t do that. Maybe you can call it “passive-feminism” or whatever, but I’m pretty convinced that the fact that a bunch of women from various age groups, races, orientations, and locations are coming together to form a blog and write about anything is pretty damn feminist. Feminism is about equality, y’all.

We have already been put into the “man-hating” box and the fact that we put ourselves in another box and treat it like some exclusive club is just like shooting ourselves in the foot.

I’m a feminist and I believe that showing my body doesn’t necessarily mean power.

I’m a feminist and I don’t like the work of every female artist simply because she’s female.

I’m a feminist blogger and I can write about anything and there’s nothing you can do to stop me.

 

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